We are at week 7 and I have to say, I’ve gotten further in this process than I had expected. I really thought I would be banned from my parents house by now. Yes, my mother has had some bad days, but she’s also has accommodated most of my requests so far. I am not expecting this whole process will cure her and I’m not really sure what my goals are anymore. All I know is that I can’t give up.
To put it lightly, last week was a disaster. I can’t lie, I’m having major anxiety from my mother’s behavior. I walk into the house nervously hoping that this week will be better. I don’t think I can take another bad week. I head straight upstairs and my mother joins me as I move a few boxes aside for sorting at my house. She immediately starts going through a box of my grandmother’s old things and takes out a bottle of rubbing alcohol, a bottle of hydrogen peroxide, and a clock. I am highly annoyed since they were such trivial things, but also relieved she only took 3 items. I was shocked as she let me take everything else and even had two bags of newspapers packed and ready to go. I mentioned that maybe she could even get up to 3 bags the next week. She said she was busy, but maybe soon. She didn’t say no! I was also able to get three bags of newspapers out of the garage. My mother was still watching me closely this week, but it was a much calmer process!
I got home and started combing through the boxes I removed from my parents house earlier that day. Unfortunately I found it hard to get rid of anything since there were a lot of personal items from my grandma. Even though, I packed a box up for goodwill and have posted the corningware dishes on ebay. I left the other items to sort through at a later time since it seems the more I bring into my house, the less I will want to keep! It’s all about baby steps..
Total this week – 2 bags of newspapers from mom & 3 bags of pre-bagged newspapers
1 Bag plastic bottles
1 Cardboard box
1 Box misc kitchen items and other personal items from grandma
Total from mom – 11.5 from mom plus 8 bags of newspapers